Here are ten questions to ask yourself.
And once you have some answers, ask other people the same questions, so you can be of genuine help to both audiences.
1
If you want to understand who someone is, ask:
What would make you feel better?
2
If you want to understand what someone’s yearning for, ask:
What is the thing you’re deeply missing?
3
If you want to understand what makes someone proud, ask:
What would make you happy to do more often?
4
If you want to understand someone’s values, ask:
What does it mean for you to be good?
5
If you want to understand how to help the world, ask someone:
What wrong needs set right, right now?
6
If you want to understand someone’s identity, ask:
Where do you want to belong?
7
If you want to understand someone’s dreams, ask:
How can I help you become the person you want to be?
8
If you want to understand someone’s frustration, ask:
What rule do you need permission to break?
9
If you want to understand someone’s community, ask:
Who matters most to you and what do they need?
10
If you want to understand someone’s inaction, ask:
How can I get out of your way?
